Hey, before we dive in, I want everyone to think about something: "When faced with something happening, what is your initial reaction?"
Let me take a guess at your first reactions—are they fear, nervousness, fear, and a desire to give up? Or do you approach these situations with calmness, focus, and a determination not to give up?
I recently came across a sentence that stunned me: "What Happens Isn't Important; What Matters Is How You Respond to It," which is our topic today. Why did it surprise me? Well, most of the time, when we encounter something that needs handling, we tend to complain about why it happened. Maybe these things are unfortunate or painful. Honestly, I'm not an exception.
Before I came across this life-changing sentence, I used to complain about these things every day. I complained about why I encountered such situations, why these things only happened to us, why I was so unlucky. If my complaints weren't silently murmured, they would probably be deafening. It was constant complaining, without ever really thinking about how to solve these things or examining my initial reactions and attitudes towards them.
I Changed
After I realized this sentence, I underwent a profound change, even making significant progress. "Just realizing this sentence changed a lot? Are you trying to grab the audience's attention?" You might have this question, but I can assure you, absolutely not. I also hope you can gain significant changes and growth from my story. Let's get back to the main point.
What Kind of Change?
I think the most obvious change is in the attitude I develop when handling something. And this attitude has allowed me to grow significantly. The old me would constantly complain about unfairness, but the current me would first calm down, regain my composure, and then find ways to solve the issue. Yes, not automatically finding solutions but deliberately persuading myself to think of ways to solve the problem. It might sound a bit chaotic, but it's very different for me. A person who often feels bored, complains, and has an emotionally unstable mindset finds it very difficult to come up with good solutions to problems. So, it is necessary to rely on self-reminders to make our minds work to handle things.
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