We SHOULD Stay Away from These "BEST FRIENDS"
We have to know how to recognize a real good friend, not think that if he can bring me happiness, then he will be a good friend for us, to recognize a person is to protect yourself!
Before we get started with today's topic, take a moment to think about whether your friends are your true friends.
As we grow up, we make all kinds of friends. Some are funny, some are kind and helpful, some are smart, and of course, we meet some who aren't so nice to us.
When we first meet someone, it's hard to see their true personality. This can lead to a lot of awkward moments and hurt feelings later on. I've been there, and I've met a lot of different people growing up.
Some friends are better off not being too close. I'm not saying you should avoid them all, but you should know how to recognize the "good friends" in our circle.
"Best friends"
These people we call "best friends" are always around us, the people we're friendly with. But it's all an illusion until they reveal their true personalities.
After spending a long time with them, we start to realize that they're just ordinary friends who play well with us. They're not a group of people who can get along with us for a long time.
When we need help, our first reaction is to look for close friends to help us. I don't know if you've noticed, but when we're looking for a group of "good friends," they always have a good reason to say no. We think it's normal for others to be unable to help, but after seeking help three or two times, we still don't get the response we want. Then we realize they've already responded; they just didn't reject us outright. Do you still think they're good friends at this point?
Let's look at this another way. When you are being bullied, will your friends be the first to come forward to help you solve the bullying incident, or will they turn their heads and walk away from you?
I used to be a person who believed in friendship very much, I foolishly believed that once I had a deep friendship with others, they would help each other, and I believed that once I faced difficulties, there would be someone who would be by my side the first time, but after experiencing this incident, I had a complete misunderstanding of friendship. In my middle school years, I met bullying for the first time in my life, in my being bullied, when I look forward to who will come to help me, look forward to someone to help me to solve the problem, but when I saw my friends turn a blind eye to me and gradually far away, I suddenly woke up, in fact, good friends are not our best partners, they are just a group of people who play better and only know each other.
Of course, with all the people in the world, there must be some good friends who are really helpful, but I just haven't met any yet. Maybe some of you are luckier than me to have met someone who can help you out of a crisis, and I would like to congratulate you on that.
Another example that I've met for a long time is the fake best friend, which simply means that he or she has always shown us that he or she is a good person in front of us, maybe he or she has helped us with our problems, or bought us something, or maybe he or she has defended us when we were being bullied.
Wait, I know what you're asking. Are you wondering if a person who seems like a good friend is actually a false friend? I'm here to explain that, usually, such a person will be very good to us. But in the unseen place, they'll be belittling us in different ways. I see the most is to each other, calling each other good friends. Then, they'll say bad things about each other and belittle each other!
Best Friends
What is a good friend? I think a good friend is someone you can rely on. In my mind, a good friend is like an unspoken teammate in an adventure. They can cheer us up when we are down, be happy for us when we achieve something, be the first to show up to help us in times of trouble, help each other out when we are developing our careers, speak up to rebut us when we are being degraded, and most importantly, they can be trusted.
Of course, these are the good sides. In reality, it's very difficult to meet such a friend. That’s why I’ve been waiting for someone like that to come along. Are you reading this article, waiting for the same thing I am?
My views and insights
After all the false friendships I've encountered, I still believe that out of the 8.1 billion people in the world, I can meet a great friend. I'll still make friends, but my relationships with them will be purely social. I'll treat people with sincerity, but I won't be able to give my heart to everyone. We're all creatures that don't want to be hurt. I hope my advice is helpful. I wish you all the best in finding the right friends to help you through life. The point is that we have to know how to recognize a real good friend, not think that if he can bring me happiness, then he will be a good friend for us, to recognize a person is to protect yourself!
#Remember, think about life, marvel at life, and move on