I've been thinking lately about whether introverts are really timider and weaker than extroverts. I'm an introvert myself. I'm an introvert myself. I'm not great at expressing myself in many situations, or at sharing my opinion, and I'm passive in many ways, so I sometimes miss out on valuable opportunities.
I think that introverts like me have one thing in common: we're not great at frequent socializing. The reason is that we're not particularly good at expressing ourselves, so it's difficult to come up with new topics when socializing with others at a high frequency. In the end, it becomes a one-sided game of "you ask me, I answer." Frequent socialization is a kind of psychological torture and mental exhaustion for introverts. We don't dislike communicating with others; we just prefer to talk to one person at a time. But when we're in a situation where we have to constantly communicate with a lot of people, it can feel overwhelming.
Introverts like to stay in quiet environments to work or do their favorite things, so most of us introverts stay in our rooms and don't want to go out and socialize or go to places where there are people. In a noisy environment, we feel anxious because we can't find true peace of mind due to external distractions and stimuli, which affects our mood and state of mind throughout the day. We feel that the only time we can be ourselves is when we are alone, and we don't feel uncomfortable when we are alone.
I think these are the common points that other introverts will probably agree with. Once we've covered the common points, we can move on to the topic of "Don't underestimate introverts. They're often more likely to be successful."
In today's society, people tend to prefer extroverts because they're sociable and talkative. Many people also think that introverts are actually very shy and unconfident, which makes it easy to stereotype that "extroverts are better than introverts." I think it's important to say that introverts are not bad at all, and in most cases are even stronger than extroverts.
We introverts are great at understanding people, even if we don't always have the confidence to express our opinions. Introverts often have a knack for picking up on what others are thinking and feeling because we can read between the lines based on how they move and what they say. I think it's a very strong ability. It means we can empathize and sympathize with others, so we can detect what kind of emotion they're trying to convey and then respond based on that emotion. We're better at handling relationships because we pay more attention to the details. It's not that extroverts can't do this. In fact, of the introverted friends I know, most are better at this than the extroverts.
A great listener
In this world, there are plenty of people who like to talk, but not so many who are good at listening to what others have to say or complain about. We're the best listeners out there.
We're great at hearing what others have to say and offering constructive feedback. We try to get a firsthand view of what people are thinking and feeling. Listening isn't easy because it takes patience. Most of us are patient enough to support others, but not so much to listen to them.
The ability to self-reflect
I agree wholeheartedly with the idea that introverts are great at self-reflection. Many of us share this ability, but the way we do it is different.
For instance, I like to take some time at night or on the day of the incident to think about what I could have done better or what I said wrong in a social situation. Then I choose that day to reflect on how I did it so that I don't make the same mistake again.
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