I once came across a quote that said, "You can definitely change yourself if you want to." That quote really resonated with me whenever I was thinking about making changes to myself, whether for personal or professional reasons. It also inspired me to do whatever I could to make the most of the process. I didn't realize how challenging it would be to change because I was so focused on moving forward and believed I could outperform everyone. I was sure I could do it.
At the time, I thought I should stop feeling depressed and start studying. So, I set myself a lot of learning goals, but I didn't get anywhere. In fact, I even regressed a bit. I didn't understand why until I started thinking back and realized that I was wrong. I thought that setting myself a goal to study all the time was a good idea, but in hindsight I realized that I was actually making myself work harder than I needed to. What's the difference between a real effort and a fake one? Let me give you an example. During the period I was studying, I did read, but I was reading in a state where I might read for two hours and then go on to watch a drama. In the end, I didn't memorize the contents of the books. All I remembered was that I spent two hours reading and I thought I was awesome. I've kept up this approach because I've become so invested in this "fake effort" that my mind keeps telling me that I'm really trying, but it's just a fantasy, not a reality. I ended up with a pretty disappointing grade on my exam. My example is just one of the reasons, but I think it's also the most egregious one.
Most people want to change themselves, but in the end, they end up changing themselves. A lot of things nowadays say that we must be self-disciplined. They say we must discipline ourselves every day in order to have a better life, that we must discipline ourselves in order to achieve real success, that self-discipline can make us successful in a short period of time, and then we can add a lot of challenges to our everyday lives. These are the consensus that all of us have gotten from watching the video. So, is it really possible to grow and succeed in a short period of time through self-discipline? The answer is no. The reason is simple: our brains have been used to feeling decadent for a long time. Even if we try to change our habits, it's difficult for our brains to adapt. If we didn't have the habit of running, would we suddenly start running five kilometers a day? If we hadn't developed these habits before, we'd have given up when we got them because we couldn't stick to them. That would have led to a sense of disillusionment, which would have been the wrong approach. The key to self-discipline isn't about being disciplined for the sake of it or doing lots of things because we want to be disciplined. It's about understanding what it means to be disciplined for the right reasons. I believe that self-discipline should start with the simplest tasks and be done for the purpose of bettering oneself. This is what I consider to be self-discipline. For instance, we can start the day by folding the messy cups, which was our original plan, but then reduce it to reading an hour a day, which is still better than nothing. We can also reduce the number of fitness groups from five to three, which is still better than nothing. The key is to start simple and build up from there. I know these processes can take a while, but if you stick with it, you can gradually change. You'll feel like it was all worth it in the end. It takes a long time to stick to self-discipline in order to change, so that you won't be unable to change and feel anxious.
I think the main reason most people don't realise there's a reason for this is fear of change. That's right, the fear of change is our subconscious influence. We don't want to change for a variety of reasons. When you think about it, you'll probably say, "How can I say I want to change? How can I be afraid?" The truth is, we beat ourselves up and do other things that bring us short-term pleasure because our subconscious mind is afraid that we won't be able to get that pleasure when we change. I spent a long time thinking about this before I realized it, and when I did, I actually made the change. This is why it's important to understand what's going on inside us. Only by knowing ourselves can we communicate with ourselves better and grow.
These three issues have been the biggest challenges I've faced as I've grown. I hope that anyone else facing similar difficulties will recognize them and take the steps needed to grow. I'm confident that overcoming these hurdles will help us all move forward.
#Remember, think about life, marvel at life, and move on.